High-Performance Lifestyle

Bachelor for Life

It wasn’t until rather recently that I came to terms with the fact that I would most likely remain a bachelor for the rest of my life. By ‘came to terms with,’ I mean that I embraced it.

Social conditioning has taught both men and women that the ideal life involves marriage to another individual (genders aside in our new age). To that end, there is a series of games and trials that each gender must go through. We “win” the game when we figure out how to play it. The rules are unspoken and sometimes unclear. However, by their mid-twenties, most men and women have figured it out.

For men, the game is actually quite simple. You need to amass as much money and power as possible, and flaunt it. Examples of this might be a sports car or an enormous pickup. I have already ranted at length about this. You also need to figure out how to be a tool – the right kind of tool. The kind of tool you have to be varies from woman to woman with a few fundamentals staying the same. Check out my previous rant for more info there.

For women, the game is a little bit more complicated. In fact, I’m no expert at this half of the deal and I only have the information that I have gathered from my side. So far as I can tell, the game involves getting “up the ladder” to richer and more powerful men. I thank ladder theory for that insight. However, getting there takes many forms. This could be using jealousy, emotional manipulation, sex or any other number of despicable, underhanded methods.

Most people have figured out the game by their mid-twenties because they have lost it enough times to know the rules. This is why society generally views males as cynical and bitter after that time and women as bitches.

Me? I’m a bit of a misogynist myself. Now, that doesn’t make me a sexist. I have no problem with women getting paid as much as men IF THEY ARE AS COMPETENT AS MEN IN WHAT THEY DO. I have no problem with women having a job AS LONG AS THEY CAN HANDLE THEIR RESPONSIBILITIES AT HOME. Feminism, to me, comes with a qualifier statement in every aspect. If women want to be treated equal to men, they need to be able to act like men. Be competent in what you do at your job if you expect to be paid well. Don’t forget your responsibilities at home if you want a job (you might hate me for that, but how many women bitch about the man not doing enough at home?).

I’m no sexist, no. But I definitely do not like women that much. Now, each time I meet a new person of the fairer sex, I give her a chance to earn my respect. There ARE women I respect, and deeply. But they are countable on one hand. Eventually, most women find a way to disappoint me. I do have high standards for people, but I have plenty of male friends who have earned my respect.

Feminism is out of control. It has always been that women gravitated towards men who had more money and power. But women of past generations didn’t have the attitude modern feminism imparts to younger women these days. They were willing to compromise in some aspects of their life to be with a man. They knew how to respect and support a man during times when he may need it. They also knew that men are not bulletproof and should not be expected to handle every task perfectly. Men played to their strengths – providing for the family, technical skills, important decisions and finances, and women played to their strengths – raising children, taking care of the family, providing emotional support. I don’t think feminism had it wrong to begin with. Why not let women do other things? I’m all for it. Where it went wrong was when it decided that men should handle EVERYTHING and women should handle nothing. Men are expected not only to be good at providing for a family, looking after the house and yard, etc., but they are also supposed to be willing to all the things women traditionally do. Again, it’s not really black and white. Men can do those things, sure, but it isn’t their forte. Women need to do those things, too, and they seem to take considerable offense when the man asks them to.

But enough about that. The point of this entire discussion is that marriage as we once knew it is dead. Perhaps the reason our divorce rate is sky-high has nothing to do with the typical stupidity of young people or religion or any of those social issues and completely stems from the fact that people don’t want to be married anymore. Oh, sure, people want to be married. The idea that another person could love you and take care of you and look after you in times of hardship is a very comforting idea. They see the positives, sure. But they don’t see that marriage doesn’t work within the confines of modern feminism. Men haven’t really changed much – women have changed a lot. And they don’t see that marriage takes work no matter what fucked up social regime you may be operating under.

So why get married? You might still be able to make a case for marriage, I’m not sure. You might know more of those exceptionally grand, rare women who are still good candidates for a wife. But let’s take a look at the dating scene next.

If the world of marriage isn’t enough to convince you the world is fucked, then the dating scene should. One thing that modern society has taught young men and women alike is that you shouldn’t compromise. This is another time where the idea started out ok but was badly misinterpreted. Don’t compromise on your values. Values are things independent of social demarcations. Essentially, the original intent was to teach people they shouldn’t settle on a domestic abuser or a mass murderer. The idea quickly got out of hand though. Instead, people took it to mean things like don’t compromise on what kind of vehicle you want. Don’t compromise on what kind of look you want. Don’t compromise on where you want to live. All of these stupid, material things. The world as a whole has lost values and prized materialism in its place. And when it comes time to compromise in order to keep a relationship alive, they would rather kill the relationship on the (incorrect) belief that their perfect fit is somewhere out there already just waiting for them. Newsflash: NO ONE is perfect. And no one is perfect for you.

So, basically no matter what you do, every relationship is destined either to fail or to end up seriously dysfunctional.

You might say I’m being overly cynical or bitter. Maybe. I am a bitter man, and it has a lot to do with losing over and over. I’m also a very different person, so finding someone that lines up with me at all is a challenge. But I don’t think I’m really bitter. I’ve perfected the bachelor lifestyle. I don’t need a woman’s approval or touch to feel complete. I don’t need a pretty face at the end of a long day of work. I can cook and clean and look after myself. I can do anything I want whenever I want. And I’ve reached the point where I need sex so little that it can’t be used as a tool to manipulate me by women. I used to think being single was a terrible thing. Now, I think it’s the only sane move a person can make. Why should I be bitter about being rejected by mainstream society? Who in their right mind would want to be part of that? If anything, I see it as a compliment. My countless rejections by women stand together as a testament to my old-school manliness.

But this is not bad news at all. The life of a bachelor is good news. In fact, let’s take a look at a few points that men can look forward to living the single life.

1. Health: Single men are healthier than married men. I don’t think anyone can dispute this. Even age has nothing to do with it. Take a look at older single men – they’re still in great physical shape for their age. Though the line is somewhat less obvious between single men and boyfriends, it’s still true that single men win out here. Sure, there are some married guys who stay in shape, but most of them have “won” the game and don’t have to worry about it anymore. Plus, they’re so busy bringing money home for the woman to blow that they don’t have time to get to the gym. And with all that extra stuff feminism loads onto married men, it’d take two lifetimes to get back in shape.

2. Money: Women are the biggest hole you can burn in your pocket. That and children, but at least children won’t fuck you over. Single men and men who never get married are generally a lot healthier financially. Now, it should be noted that this doesn’t include the super rich. This is just your average, middle class guy. Another reason single men have more money is because married men usually have to blow a lot of money on pointless, senseless things to get a woman to marry them (say a huge truck or a sports car, as discussed earlier). One exception to this is the single man who is TRYING to get married – he will be dirt poor for the aforementioned reason. But men who have consciously made the decision to stay single will generally have more money. NOTE: another possible objection to this rule is that married men support a family and have bigger houses, etc., so they must make more money. This is a fallacy, however. Married men have a bigger gross cash flow but their net flow is much smaller. That is to say, most of a married man’s money is out the door before the paycheck gets to the bank.

3. Sanity: Women have a way of wearing on a man. It’s not a universal rule, but it’s generally true. Women teach men that they shouldn’t be selfish and should put the needs of others before their own needs. They do this while subtly gearing men to work for them. This is obviously hugely hypocritical, but it goes unnoticed a lot of the time. Women complain that men just “aren’t real men” anymore. Yet whenever a married man tries to be a man by, say, watching football games with the guys or going fishing, women are the first ones to object. This kind of conflicting data can drive a man nuts. The “successful” married man submits entirely and lives a mediocre existence to the end of his days.

4. Sex: If there’s one thing that most men find scary about marriage, it’s the idea of committing to having sex with only one person for the rest of their lives. I myself find this distasteful. Women collectively (perhaps without even knowing it) work against this attitude men have by pairing off early. A single man can’t have sex with a married woman, and married man (usually) can’t stray. If the single man who stands by his biological desire to have sex with a variety of women won’t play the game, there are others who will. Married men essentially make a choice between not having anyone left to have sex with later down the road or having sex with only one person for the rest of their lives. It’s obvious which way they go. Nonetheless, single men do enjoy a better sex life with more variety for the first 25-40% of their lives. I’d say after 40 years, I’ll probably be mostly done having sex. So why do I care?

5. Freedom: Women try to shame men and take away their freedom by calling it selfishness. Single men enjoy a lot more freedom. They can sleep in on the weekends, watch football all Saturday, wait on the laundry or simply go naked if they want to. A wife would badger all of that away.

For years, women have been urging men to believe that it’s the woman behind the man that makes the man. Women have collectively perpetuated fallacies like this for generations. The game hasn’t changed appreciably until now, though. Feminism has gone too far and exposed a lot of the games women play. It has also changed the dating scene hugely in favor of women, so that men are forced to make difficult, unpleasant decisions quite often. Add to that the fact that a woman’s value in a marriage has been all but lost and you’ve got plenty of excellent reasons to not get married.

But hey, if you’re still pathetic enough to need a woman’s approval and companionship so badly that you’ll put up with all of the bullshit just to be with one, make sure you at least sign some prenuptial agreements when you sign your life off.